The 5 little secrets of highly persevering people

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Are you getting pumped up with your new exciting project just to give up when it gets hard? Do you start projects never leading them to completion?

This article was made for you. In this article, I will give you 5 secrets that will turn you into a highly persevering people and ensure you don’t give up on your dreams.

Here are the 5 little secrets of highly persevering people

1) They cultivate self-compassion

Would you accept to spend your life with someone that is constantly criticizing you, making you feel that you are not good enough, not capable and unworthy? Well, that’s what most of us are doing with ourself every day! Self-criticism is probably one of the main reasons why we give up.

You may fear that if you are not hard enough on yourself you won’t get much done, but it is a great misconception. In reality, while self-discipline is important, self-compassion is as much or even more important. Studies have shown that having self-compassion helps us being more persistent and more perseverant.

Highly persevering people respect themselves and cultivate self-compassion.

Here is a challenge for you: ban entirely self-criticism for one week and see what happens.

My guess is that you will 1) feel better 2) get as much or probably more done than usual.

Remember that we are all trying to do our best with our current level of awareness and personal growth. Blaming yourself won’t help, no matter how tempting or natural it may seem.

2) They expect the worse

When we set goals, obviously we want to achieve them. We already envision ourself achieving our goals and feel great about it, don’t we?

However, being too optimistic and failing to expecting the worse is probably one of the biggest mistakes people make when working on their goals.

Before setting a goal for yourself, it is crucial that you prepare yourself mentally to face any challenge that you are likely to encounter in the future.

Ask yourself: what is the worst thing that can happen? Then, multiply it tenfold. Take ample time creating the worse scenarios in our mind, or even better on paper, and think of how you will deal with them. Finally, decide what exactly you are ready to go through before giving up. How will you know it is time to give up?

Simply preparing yourself mentally to face tough challenges will take you a long way and will help you to significantly increase your ability to persevere. You won’t give up to soon anymore!

Highly persevering people, while being optimistic, prepare for the worse.

3) They don’t play the victim

Most of us tend to have unrealistic expectations regarding our goals. We blame ourself when we fail, believing we are not competent enough or unlucky. We enjoy playing the victims telling ourself and everyone around us how hard we tried, how unlucky we were or how stupid we are.

What we often fail to realize is how much work is needed to get where we want to be and how much time it may take to get there.

For instance, it is not uncommon for startup entrepreneurs to work very hard 2 or 3 years on building their companies and fail. They may need several attempts before they eventually succeed or may never succeed for all we know. While it may seem somewhat depressing, it helps you put things into perspective and realize that you may need to take more action or keep persevering before you get results.

Highly persevering people don’t play the victim. Neither should you.

4) They practice meditation

Meditation has many benefits. One of it is the strengthening of your ability to focus on the task at hands. By practicing meditation, you learn to bring back your attention in the present moment.

We are living too much in the past or in the future. When we think of all the things we need to do in order to achieve our goals we easily get overwhelmed. However, by learning to focus your attention on the present moment, you reduce stress, feel less overwhelmed by all the things you need to do, and, as a result, increase your ability to persevere.

Highly persevering people focus on what task at a time and get it done.

Are you getting tired just thinking about all the things you need to do? Why not start practicing meditation today?

5) They get their daily dose of motivation

Zig Ziglar said “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily”. Reading, watching or listening to motivational materials is a great way to set the tone for your day. As you are listening to motivational materials, overtime, you will automatically start picking up some sentences you like and they will become your mantras. These mantras will help you persevere during tough time.

Most of the battles we are fighting happen in our mind, so make sure you get your daily dose of motivation to receive the extra boost you need to persevere during challenging times. When you feel like giving up, chances are that most people feel the same.

Highly persevering people learn to persevere when most people are giving up and it makes all the difference.

What about you? What method are you using to persevere? Share it with me below…

Guest post: Deep reading – A vigorous exercise for the brain

Matilda by Roald Dahl.

Matilda by Roald Dahl.

A philosophy professor at a university in Nottingham recently talked about the importance of literature in the everyday life of the average individual. Dr. Gregory Currie argues that literature has the ability to make us better as people. There’s plenty of research to back up the claims; two Canadian psychologists published several studies between 2006 and 2009. These were meant to prove that reading fiction can make us understand each other so much better. Apparently, fiction books helps people empathize with the characters, as well as perceive a fictional world in a whole different way.

The researchers additionally mentioned that reading novels increases people’s level of compassion for what’s happening around them. In 2010, a similar study was performed on kids. It looked like the more stories kids read the more involved their “theory of mind” became.

  • Deep reading – an activity for deep thinkers

Unlike superficial reading, which mainly involves reading magazines and surfing the web, deep reading is a lot more complex. The practice will soon become scarce, whether we like to admit it or not. Very few people nowadays read meaningful literature or philosophy or any other genre that’s usually explained in books over 300-400 pages. Reading is an endangered practice and its fading would jeopardize the emotional and intellectual development of future generations, as well as the continuation of a very important part of our current culture: poems, novels, and additional forms of literature that only a deep reader can appreciate and comprehend.

Recent discoveries in neuroscience, cognitive science and psychology have proven that deep reading (which is immersive, slow, and rich in emotional and sensory detail and moral complexity) differs from average reading. Even though the practice doesn’t necessarily entail an ordinary book, the printed page can make the experience feel different and unique. Books don’t have hyperlinked texts; this automatically frees the reader from having to make decision – what if I click on this link? Should I? This way conventional reading permits the reader to stay focused on the narrative.

  • Deep reading and the power of immersion

Deep reading depends upon a process called “immersion”, which is related to the way our brain deals with language centered on allusion, detail, and metaphor. Basically, it creates a mental representation that connected to the exact same regions of the brain that could remain active in case a particular scene would happen in actual life. Moral dilemmas and emotional scenarios are constant in literature; they’re also a dynamic brain exercise because it propels fictional characters into our heads that must deal with a situation. In spite of the utopian scenario, decisions must be made and things happen; according to various studies, this increases our capacity to empathize.

None of these emotions will abound in your head while reading lifestyle magazines. Even if the activity is the same, deep reading involves reading books with ample plots. Online reading is less satisfying and less engaging. According to various British researchers, kids and teens read every day; however they do it because it’s cool to read things on a tablet or smart device. None of these kids spend more than 2 hours reading continuously, and that’s because the online environment is packed with distractions.

  • Deep reading – an activity that’s slowly dying

Whether we want to admit it or not, deep reading may be on the verge of extinction. As opposite to an individual’s to speak and understand spoken words – which usually unfold based on a program induced by our genes – reading is an ability that is acquired. As we grow we construct “reading circuits” that are recruited from our brain’s structures. These can be robust or feeble, depending on how forceful and frequently we choose to employ them.

Individuals who are “deep readers” are protected from external distractions; they’re attuned to language nuances. These people enter a state called “hypnotic trance”. They’re enjoying the experience, the blend of words and challenge of decoding the words. The pace is slower because these readers enjoy each page to the maximum. They reflect, analyze and even contribute with their own opinions and ideas. To some degree they establish an intimate link with the author of the book, and they become totally immersed in the plot.

By Jason Phillips and!

According To Psychologists, Coloring Is The Best Alternative To Meditation


As of the time of this publication, six of the top 20 selling books on Amazon are adult coloring books. Coloring is a hobby that we typically think only little toddlers and kindergartners would enjoy, but it turns out that even adults can benefit from it.

Coloring is a low-stress activity that allows an individual to unlock their creative potential. More importantly, it helps relieve tension and pent-up anxiety because it unlocks memories of childhood and simpler times. As psychologist Antoni Martínez explains to The Huffington Post, “I recommend it as a relaxation technique. We can use it to enter a more creative, freer state. I recommend it in a quiet environment, even with chill music. Let the color and the lines flow.”

Ben Michaelis, a psychologist, says, “There is a long history of people coloring for mental health reasons. Carl Jung [founder of psychology] used to try to get his patients to color in mandalas at the turn of the last century, as a way of getting people to focus and allow the subconscious to let go. Now we know it has a lot of other stress-busting qualities as well.”

Basically, if you are having a rough day at work or just a bad day in general, then feel free to take out some crayons or colored pencils and start coloring. As a parent with children, I’m sure that you will have some coloring books lying around the house. Pick one up and relax!

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Life has got a bit hectic lately…


Hi folks, sorry I’ve not been able to blog much lately, share a guest post or publish reviews for books.

In short, life has been throwing some major curve balls my way.

My little boy (he’s only 4) was very poorly last week. He had to stay in hospital with a rare bacterial septic infection. They initially thought meningitis. Eeek. He was in an insulation room throughout was a raging fever.

He also had to get surgery to try and figure out where his illness was coming from. Turns out his bowel doesn’t look how it should and he may need another operation later in the year to correct his bowel.

So, I’ve been rushing back and forth to hospital. It’s not easy as we have two older kids and a very young baby at home. Thank goodness we had some family to help out.

The good news is our little guy is home now and recovering well. Hoping so much he doesn’t have to go through another operation though. Let’s hope we can avoid that.

I’m sure I’m not the only one who struggles to find the time to be creative when life gets frantic hey? Every thing else is on hold until health resumes!

Guest Post: What reading Kiss Kiss by Roald Dahl did for me…


Roald Dahl – Image courtesy of The Guardian.

It is so many years ago that I read this book, but it left a lasting impression on me and had certainly influenced my book of short stories “Flight of Destiny”. Maybe some of the concepts in this book seem a bit dated…but then it was published in 1960 and times were rather different then. Would you call your short story “Parson’s Pleasure” and the main character Cyril Boggis? If you don’t know this story it is about a shady antiques dealer, who takes advantage of naive country types, and comes across a priceless Chippendale commode, which he acquires for twenty pounds with the intention of selling it for twenty thousand. What we can safely say about Roald Dahl’s stories is that there is a significant twist at the end of each story. It is this aspect that really influenced my short story writing.

Where did Roald Dahl get the ideas for his dark stories? Here is a writer who also wrote equally lauded and memorable children’s stories “Charlie and the Chocolate Factory” “James and the Giant Peach” and “Matilda”. Roald Dahl was able to make an easy transition between writing for adults and children. It is true that often children’s stories are dark.

Roald Dahl did not have a happy childhood. His sister and father both died, one not long after the other, when he was still very young. Like myself he was sent away to boarding school. If you haven’t experienced an English boarding school first hand, it is hard to imagine, what such institutions are really like. His experience involved being caned as well as being bullied by older boys. It was also during his time at boarding school, that he became a bit of a prankster. More significantly he had a special fondness for a sweet store and the idea for Charlie and the Chocolate Factory germinated from this period of his life. He endured a particularly savage punishment after he and some friends dropped a mouse into a lolly jar, which doesn’t sound like it warranted much of a punishment.

I also vividly remember watching “Tales of the Unexpected” a TV series based Roald Dahl’s short stories. The show’s music is very distinctive and the titles at the beginning and end, maybe were a bit daring at the time. The show attracted some well-known actors at the time, drawn to act in Dahl’s imaginative dark stories. Maybe they are a bit too “quaint” in terms of these days. I picked up a DVD of the show, in a second-hand shop.

With my own short stories, like Dahl, I try to include an unexpected twist at the end. With short stories, you face limits, you have create characters, that the reader will immediately identify with. You have to create strong dialogue. You have to create an opening sentence like no other, that grabs the reader’s attention. Some people believe that authors graduate from being short story writers into full novel writers, a kind of literary rite of passage…me?…I really like this format of writing. My work might be much darker than Roald Dahl might have dared…but I really admire his work and “Kiss Kiss” will always be very special to me.

If you read this quote by Cormac McCarthy, “I’m not interested in writing short stories. Anything that doesn’t take years of your life and drive you to suicide hardly seems worth doing.” There seems to be a sentiment that short stories are not seen in the same light as full novels. Personally I love this format of writing.

What he is saying is that to be a fully fledged writer, you need sweat blood, perhaps for him short story writing is an easy route, so not of the same value as a full novel.

Some quotes on short stories

“A short story is confined to one mood, to which everything in the story pertains. Characters, setting, time, events, are all subject to the mood. And you can try more ephemeral, more fleeting things in a story – you can work more by suggestion – than in a novel. Less is resolved, more is suggested, perhaps.”
– Eudora Welty

“You become a different writer when you approach a short story. When things are not always having to represent other things, you find real human beings begin to cautiously appear on your pages.” – Zadie Smith

Deborah Eisenberg states that “the plot of a good story is likely to be a stranger, more volatile and more evanescent sort of thing than the plot of a novel”. You can’t meander with a short story. A short story, can’t evoke the expanse and diversity of life, and takes the reader’s attention towards a more limited aspect. With full novels, the author is forced to wrap things up, whereas the short novelist can afford to be ambiguous. So a novel and short story have different constraints.

By Francis H Powell

Author of Flight of Destiny, a book of 22 short stories.